Thankful for friends.
Thankful for listening ears.
Thankful for real talk and friends willing to podcast with you. Ha!
Today on the podcast, my friend, Chidinma, and I are discussing- Anger and its destructive consequences.
On the day we made this podcast, I remember walking into her house with the words, ‘O chi, if patience was food, I need it now’.
We ranted about our week- the good, the bad, mistakes and areas we needed to work on. Anger was top on the list, and we decided to podcast about it.
Here are some nuggets I learnt:
- Don’t address issues when you are overly emotional.
- When you are angry, you tend to say a lot of nasty thing….things you didn’t mean…practice ‘shutting up’. Do you have to speak your mind?
- We are not perfect. We are a work in progress. Progress is intentional.
- The issues you are mad at, is not that serious. Be calm!!!
- Keep quiet and listen. You’ll realize that maybe, you don’t have to be mad.
- Anger and pride says ‘I’m right’, and because you think you are right, you are blinded and deaf to other alternatives.
- Be led by humility. Be full of Holy Spirit. It makes you lovable.
- When you are mad, don’t tell the whole world. Before you go thrash talking the other person, stop and whisper a 3 minute or a 10 minute prayer to God. Vent to God or your mirror. Don’t damage another person’s reputation to salvage your peace of mind. What happens when it clears up, will you go back to speak well about that person?
- One side of the story isn’t the complete story. Chidinma’s mom says that-‘There are three sides to the story- My side, your side, and the real story’. If I tell the story, I will tell it to favour myself…are you telling the story to suit yourself? Am I telling it in such a way that I’m the righteous one?
- Gifts extra grace. Give allowance to people making you mad…Wake up every morning expecting that people will offend you, but have a dose of grace and forgiveness to let it go.
- Be open to corrections. You may have done something horrible. Don’t be defensive. Listen and change!
- By your gentle and quiet manner, you win a soul…It’s only God that can help us find peace in a storm…
- Your anger doesn’t justify the righteousness of God. Nagging, complaining, bitterness never produces anything great.
- React lovingly. Don’t assume the worst. Gain clarity. Trust God.
You are angry right? Imagine you are holding your anger, now, wrap it, wrap it…that’s the bin, drop it. You do not visit the dustbin, so you do not visit your anger.
Here are some key Bible verses:
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
Romans 12:21 ESV / 196 helpful votes
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Still angry? Breathe. It will be Ok! Tell God before you tell them. Stay in peace. It will be Ok.
Love & Light 🙂